Gay jokes still aren’t funny

If I could tell you who it was, I would.

This weekend while I was driving toward my usual photo hike I was listening to the radio. The morning DJs were in the midst of a routine that I can only assume was meant to be humorous. After only a couple of jokes, I turned the channel so I can’t be 100% sure which station or which DJs were involved, or I’d call them out.

The main host was making comparisons of what was manly and what was gay, affecting an effeminate voice that I can only assume was a caricature of a gay man. The other two – another man and woman – were being the obligatory sycophantic sidekicks and cackling like a couple of adolescents after each pairing. Still didn’t make it funny.

The jokes weren’t vile or obscene, just juvenile and stupid. That they were indulging in tired, lame gay jokes was offensive enough, but that they assumed as a listener I was equally ignorant and bigoted to find the jokes amusing, just went further to piss me off.

They wouldn’t have substituted any other groups to ridicule – men and women, Americans and Asians, Christians and Muslims – because it’s obviously contrite and feeble. That and their phone lines would have burned up with complaints, or death threats.

I don’t like humiliation humor. If I’m watching a TV show and there’s a scene where a laugh is attempted through embarrassment or ridicule, I’ll turn the channel. If I can’t do that, I leave the room  – go into the kitchen for a drink, or just to another part of the house until the scene is over.

It’s almost physically painful to watch. That someone has to be made to feel bad, for me to feel good (laugh), is troubling to me. I don’t think it’s funny – never have, never will.

That it’s 2012 and that there are still ignorant people who think making fun of any segment of our society is okay, is both sad and pathetic. Sexist and homophobic humor, ethnic or religious humor, isn’t funny. Neither are jokes about mentally and physically disabled people.

We are smarter than that, we are better than that.

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12 thoughts on “Gay jokes still aren’t funny

  1. Thank you for speaking your mind and standing up for what you believe in. I wish more people would. It is time we let go of hate and discrimination and telling stupid jokes that make fun of a group/type or people from different backgrounds/beliefs spreads hate and discrimination.



  2. Any type of humor that pulls apart that which one cannot change: ethnicity, skin color, sexual orientation, disability is offensive to me. I am the mother of an Asian child and let me tell you the Asian (particularly Chinese) bashing is alive and well in the world.


  3. all I can say is that I agree entirely. The only way people will stop this brand of so callled ‘humor’ is if we all vote with our off buttons.


  4. This reminds me of that terrible sitcom a few seasons back called “Outsourced”! Where some American dude had to go to India to be the manager of a call center there. And the scenarios were pretty much the same as any that would take place in an American call center, so basically viewers were supposed to find the show funny because of the characters’ Indian accents. I couldn’t even watch the commercials for that show cuz the premise was so outrageous. So I feel ya. Ugh.


  5. One of the real joys of Sirius XM has been DJS who are at least sincerely intelligent. Mostl of the time. And never, ever have I heard one of them express something vile like this. Oh baby, I’d have had to stop the car to take notes about which station it was so I could call them out on twitter, on facebook, and anywhere else. I’m kind of a bitch like that. And I agree with you. Humiliation humor, especially that which relies upon stereotypes and bigotry, is repulsive.


  6. Ignorance makes me sad.
    I don’t like humiliation humor either. I hate practical jokes. I hate when someone trips or falls and people laugh. I HAAATE April Fool’s Day.
    I also think that another group that is routinely targeted and made fun of is obese people. I don’t know why people still think it’s acceptable or funny to make ‘fat jokes’.


  7. Amen to that! There’s a local morning show here comprised of a group of DJs and various regular guests. What you’ve described is their kind of humor… not necessarily aimed at a particular group, but always humiliating and condescending. They have a big following, but I just can’t stand them. I can’t understand how the constant sarcasm on the show helps anyone feel good about anything.


  8. Rain reposted this and I came to check it out. I am not quite as offended, I guess, as you are, but I don’t like it. I do, however, find it funny when someone who is gay makes jokes about themselves being gay. That will crack me up, if it’s good, just like black people making jokes about their own lives. The list goes on, of course. I really think it is all about who is telling the joke and who they are ‘targeting’. If they belong to the group they are ‘targeting’, I’m on board.

    Great write and glad I came by. ♥


    1. I agree, I get that. If anyone wants to poke fun at themselves, I’m okay with that. But, I’m over all the bashing just because someone looks, acts, or thinks differently.


  9. I think you have a great way of saying what’s on your mind. I am surprised I didn’t recognize the similarities before now.

    “Juvenile” humour bores me to tears, and humiliation expected to be funny just isn’t to me. I have been told that my funny bone is broken because that type of humour annoys me. When it comes to laughing at another person’s expense, I just don’t find it fun, or funny. There are many things that make me laugh, but the line of “truth” that is in any sarcastic, biting, or humiliating joke only makes me lose respect for the person telling it.

    Whew… yep, you got me going with this one Tara… good write!


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