My house, my rules

In the four years that I have been blogging. Writing sometimes personal stories then publishing them on the Internet for all the world to see, I’ve been fortunate in that I’ve had very few trolls.

I did have a plagiarizer, the same person twice, but that’s another sort of tale.

When the first personal attack came, It stunned me. It was totally unexpected. I suppose they all are.

I very rarely write about anything that could be considered controversial. I sometimes talk about my struggle with my faith, but I don’t bash other religions. I have on occasion taken on political issues, but for the most part, any comments on those posts have agreed with me.

There are some perks to not being one of the cool kids. I’m guessing the number of troll comments are proportional to the number of visitors you have. Since I don’t have a huge following, that means I’m pretty much left alone troll-wise. (We’ll see what crawls out from under the rocks with this one.)

Regardless, I don’t have a written comment policy. I never really felt the need. If I were to have one, it would be something like this:

“My house, my rules.”

If someone disagrees with me, or someone else who left a comment, as long as it’s done with respect, that’s great. I don’t expect everyone to think the same way I do. I WON’T delete any comment simply because the commenter challenges my viewpoint.

I welcome discourse, and differing opinions, but I will not tolerate personal agendas and hateful speech.

I’ve met other bloggers who say they never delete a comment. They claim that it’s a matter of integrity to leave all statements and responses intact.

I call ‘bullshit’ on that.

Recently, I’ve received a few comments that basically called me stupid. Trouble was I got three of them, from three different names and IPs, on three different posts, that said exactly the same thing ~ verbatim. Before I might have been upset, have taken the statements personally, but now, I just laughed. Some people, it seems, have nothing better to do than troll the Internet and leave mean comments. They must be so proud of what they are doing with their lives.

My delete button isn’t used often, and the majority of time it is used, it’s because of obvious spam. But, when a comment gets ugly toward me personally, I have no problem blasting it into oblivion. Say nasty things about my kids, or husband – gone. Attack a friend or call people names – erased. If you can’t disagree with class, I am under no obligation to give you a voice, especially in my house.

I wouldn’t tolerate someone disrespecting me in my actual house, same attitude prevails here.

Submitted as part of Shell’s “Pour Your Heart Out” writing prompt at Things I Can’t Say. Please stop by to read the other posts, and give a little comment love.

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28 thoughts on “My house, my rules

  1. Really. This is why I don’t like people. *sigh*

    Love the policy, and I refuse to say anything else about my own experience for fear of attracting my own issues!

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  2. I think if people are disrespectul if it is certainly okay to delet on your blog. It is your blog. Sometimes I think some bloggers are a little too sensitive, just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t mean they are a troll.

    We all have to be grownup!

    Stopping by from PYHO

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  3. I think it’s hilarious that people do that…really. It’s so lame. I’m with you, it’s fine to disagree with me, but be respectful. I also find it funny what some people get all up in arms about…lol

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    1. In all this time, I’ve only engaged one troll, and that was sort of by accident. Usually, it’s delete and forget. Responding to trolls only gives them the attention they crave.

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      1. Don’t feed the trolls. That’s the best policy. You’re so right. Wish more people would realize and follow this!

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  4. I totally agree! I have never experienced anything like this (probably due to that whole I’m not a famous blogger/numbers thing), but I couldn’t agree more. Trolls are not welcome!

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  5. Agree 100%.

    I think people leave up controversial comments, bitch about them publicly – to get attention. Write a blog post about it (not like yours here, a reactive one, heck, I’ve done it myself) – get more attention. I’ve noticed some people are almost proud about having trolls, like it’s a rite of passage for a blogger. Meh.

    Unimpressive and lame if you talk about it.

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  6. I just get that guy with the blog saying that all American women are seflish and vain. Sounds like a guy who can’t get a date to me, but oh well.

    You should be proud to have evoked such a reaction, but I am sorry someone was mean to you and I don’t blame you for deleting the comment.

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