I haven’t said much about this before because when I make announcements, I tend to jinx the results. Injury, and inertia were what vexed me in the past, but hopefully, barring another jinx, I can be successful.
For the last five or six weeks, I’ve been out walking and exercising again. (If you follow me on Instagram, hopefully you’ve seen the sunrise shots from these early morning jaunts.)
As for the exercise, I’ve joined with a few friends to workout at a local church. We are all women of a certain age, and none of us will be morphing into swimsuit models any time soon. We’re getting healthier and enjoying the camaraderie.
I’m trying to avoid focusing on quantitative results, and instead look to how my clothes fit (looser), if I can improve my reps or times (yes and yes), if I’m sleeping better (I think so), and if I’m still enjoying myself (I am).
Thursday morning, when I arrived at the church, I met my friend who had initially invited me to join the exercise group. She and I have been friends for close to 15 years. We trained together and walked in a 5K+ back in May.
She told me I looked like I was getting thinner. It made my day. While I don’t think I’ve actually lost weight, just having someone notice my efforts was nice. That the compliment came from another woman, made it all the better.
For me, getting a compliment from a female friend feels more authentic that one from my male friends (The Mister excluded.) I think women are more critical of each other, and more honest. When a compliment is given, it means more, because I think it’s more believable.
Many years ago, I made it a point to offer compliments to my girlfriends when I thought it appropriate. I’d tell them I liked an outfit they wore to work, or admired a new haircut or color. It wasn’t always about their appearance. If they did a job particularly well, I’d mention it, especially in front of co-workers or a supervisor.
When I started doing this, it surprised many of them. A few even commented that they rarely got a compliment from another woman. That should be the norm and not the exception.
We need to lift each other up, support and encourage each other. Tell each other when we’re looking good, when we’re doing good, and when we’re simply kicking ass. When we’re having a craptastic day, we need the praise even more. Spread the love, and see how much it comes back to you.