Coming out

I am a duly registered, fully vetted, card-carrying Republican.

Yeah, I know… I hide the horns and pointy tail well.

In the same way I identify myself as Christian and still dismiss many of the hypocritical attitudes of some who adhere to organized religious practices, I also reject many of the planks of my chosen political party platform.

When asked, I tell people I am fiscally Republican, but socially Moderate, in the same way that I say I am more spiritual than religious.

I explained all that to set up this revelation:

I am a Republican, AND I believe in marriage equality.

To me, it is intrinsically wrong that an entire community of the American population is refused the fundamental right to marry the people they love, and have ALL the benefits inherent to that right – adoption, health/life insurance, medical decisions, family leave, Social Security, anything and everything I, as a spouse, am afforded.

It’s unconscionable that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are disenfranchised based solely on religious social mores. If there truly is separation of church and state, this should not be a legal issue.

During my lifetime, there were still states that outlawed marriage between different races. In 1967, when the unanimous Supreme Court case Loving vs. Virginia reversed raced-based restrictions on marriages, 16 states still had similar enforceable laws on the books.

In the original court case, where Richard and Mildred Loving were convicted on multiple charges related to their bi-racial marriage, the presiding judge, also basing his decision on religious grounds, wrote:

“Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.”

Such a ruling today would be renounced as the bigoted hate speech it truly was.

In overturning these marriage laws, the Supreme Court cited the Fourteenth Amendment’s Equal Protection Clause:

“(the 14th Amendment)… requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discrimination. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State.”

I don’t believe people choose their sexuality any more than they choose the color of their skin. Denying marriage rights simply because of sexual orientation, should be just as unconstitutional as banning these rights because of race.

Today is National Coming Out Day. I am coming out as a straight ally in support of LGBT rights.

*Day 27 – 30 Days of Shamelessness: express a dissenting opinion

17 thoughts on “Coming out

  1. I’m a Libertarian who has voted mostly Republican…& I am amazed at how narrow- minded the people who call the Republicans narrow-minded are. I believe in social justice~doesn’t mean that my definition of social justice can’t be different than theirs..

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  2. I agree with you on gay marriage. In 50 years or so , society will look back and be shocked at where we were on people’s rights.

    thumbs up

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  3. In my opinion, the Federal Government should not be in the business of sanctioning marriages at all. The government should sanction legal unions and various religions handle the religious part of the unions.

    But, I do agree with you in principal here. Everyone deserves the right to be legally joined with their partner in life, whomever that may be.

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    1. I was surprised to learn that civil unions and domestic partnerships don’t offer the same rights that marriage does. Unions and partnerships are limited in what rights they protect and what federal benefits spouses are provided. In many cases, these unions aren’t recognized if couples cross state lines.

      Wedding ceremonies aren’t the binding part of a marriage, it’s that license issued by the state that makes it all legal. I have no problem if certain denominations refuse to perform ceremonies, that’s the church’s prerogative. But I’m with you, government should not be in the business of regulating who people can marry.

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      1. I totally agree with you on this. I have gay friends who have been together for almost 40 years. When same sex marriage became legal in their state, I asked if they would do it. They said no, saying they had taken care of all the bits and pieces legally in other ways. It took a lot of work, but maybe the commitment is greater for it. So many traditional marriages don’t last as long.

        Good for you for taking a stand for equality and keeping the government out of places it doesn’t belong. And I’ll just pretend I never saw the horns. 😉

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